Being a victim of domestic violence is terrible, whether you are in a civilian or military marriage. However, there are a few unique factors to spousal abuse if your spouse is a member of the armed forces. At the Law Offices of Keith E. Holloway, we understand the seriousness of suffering through an abusive relationship. You and other Texas residents should know how to get out of an abusive marriage before your situation becomes too severe.
There are many stresses in military families that can bring out the worst in an abuser. Moving from place to place or being frequently deployed can stress out your spouse and exacerbate any anger issues. An enlisted spouse has had combat training and knows how to use a deadly weapon. Furthermore, many of those who have seen combat suffer from depression or post-traumatic stress disorder, which might cause violent episodes. It is important to understand that you are not responsible for your spouse’s violence against you or your children, regardless of the root cause of the abuse.
The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence advises abuse victims to have an escape plan before they attempt to leave an abuser. You may first want to let someone you trust know about the abuse and ask for their help. It is a good idea to set aside emergency cash, important documents, clothing and other belongings in a place your spouse does not know about. Document evidence of abuse, if possible. Finally, report the abuse to authorities and seek an order of protection when the time comes to make your escape.
It is not easy to be married to an abuser, and you do not have to suffer through it alone. You may learn more about escaping an unhappy marriage by visiting our page on military divorce.