If you are a father who is about to get a divorce, then hopefully you will be able to have fair visitation rights. But perhaps you are struggling with personal issues that may have even contributed to the end of your relationship with the child's other parent. If such is the case, you may be concerned that your problems make you a less-than-desirable father.
Well, if you are apprehensive about your worth as a father, don't worry, you can help your child in ways that you may have never considered. One of the most important things a father can do for his child is helping them understand that life is not always easy and that sometimes we have unpleasant challenges that we must face.
For example, let's say you have struggled with a gambling addiction. Obviously, you don't want your child to follow in your footsteps in this manner. So while you may be tempted to hide the issue, it could be better to openly admit to the child how your problems have impacted your life. Explain how as we get older it can be so easy to fall victim to vices that cause us pain and loss. This is a valuable lesson for any young person to learn and you may find that confiding in your child helps to strengthen your bond.
However, there are a couple of caveats. First, only give the child as much information as he or she can understand and emotionally handle. Second, make sure you spend plenty of time talking about all the good things life has to offer and how we should find things to appreciate. After all, you want your time together to be spent as positively as possible.
Even if you are a flawed person, you can be exactly the father your child needs. And this is why when it comes time to work out a parenting plan, you should stand your ground and ask for as much visitation as you believe you should have.
One way you can help your cause is to seek the advice and guidance of an experienced family law attorney. The attorney can be your representative as you negotiate for appropriate custody terms so you and your child can continue to grow together.