Sometimes after a divorce, a man may be apprehensive about his role as a father. However, according to a writer who has written about being a divorced father, there are some things that fathers should understand as they transition into their post-divorce fathering duties. Here are a few things the writer suggests you keep in mind:
- Your home means your rules. As a responsible parent, you have a right to set the boundaries for your children when they are in your possession.
- You can create and adhere to your own expectations of fatherhood. Being divorced actually frees you to define and live up to what you believe are the standards of being a good father.
- Regardless of the amount of time you are able to spend with your children, you are a full-time father, and so it is important to be committed to your responsibilities.
- Your children will be happy just to spend time with you. You do not have to constantly buy them gifts or fill every moment with amusements.
- The writer also asserts that fathers have natural parenting instincts that they should trust. Over time, you will get to know your "inner dad" and become more genuine in your role as a father.
In order to become the father that you aspire to be, you must be able to spend time with your children. This is why as you proceed through the process of the divorce, it is critical that you work toward having favorable custody terms in your parenting agreement.
Sometimes divorcing parents are able to amicably arrive at a custody arrangement. However, in other instances, custody can be a matter of great contention. In either case, if you are a father who is getting divorced, having the advice and representation of an experienced family law attorney may help you get the custody or visitation terms you desire.